On the Jeep board I moderate (which has about 25k members and 200-500 people online at a time), we always leave a note as to why things were edited or deleted and we usually try to send a PM, too. Something along the lines of "Hi so-and-so, I just wanted to let you know that I had to edit/delete your post, as we do not allow x here on the forum. For more info, feel free to check the
FAQ or contact a member of the moderating team. Thanks for your understanding!"
Of course, 50% of the time, we get a response somewhere along the lines of calling us nazis....

But, hey, I guess it comes with the territory.
In my experience, I've found this board to be fairly light-handed when it comes to moderation in comparison to other forums I frequent. There aren't a whole lot of forums that let me drop a fucking f-bomb whenever I want... so I'm feelin alright.
