A box of rain will ease the pain and love will see you thru

Non-Phish General
#1

So as some of you know my dad has been ill. He was diagnosed with ChondoSarcoma, a rare form of bone/cartilage cancer a couple months ago, had an operation and has been going through physical therapy and preparing for Chemo/radiation next month. However about a week ago during a check up they found that the cancer had spread and decided to start chemo right away. So he had been staying at the Moffit Cancer Center over in Tampa.

Tuesday night I came home from class and got a call from my brother. He said that our step-brother had called him encouraging us to go over to Tampa for a visit this week to boost our dad’s morale. I had already planned on it anyway so I just moved my plans forward and decided to go first thing in the morning. About an hour or so later my brother calls again saying that our step-brother called again with an update saying that everybody has been instructed to make it there ASAP.

It was close to midnight. We dropped what we were doing and headed out across Alligator Alley and up the west coast to Tampa. We made it there around 4AM and got to see my dad’s face light up when we walked in the room. We stayed with him all night, all morning and all afternoon and then he was transferred to a Hospice facility over on the east coast near his home in Titusville. He was asleep when we got there but we sat with him. And he never woke up.

It all went downhill so fast but most everybody made it in time. Everybody was aware, including him, and we’re all standing by each other. I came home last night and sat with my mom and uncle and cousin and brother. I’m heading back up to Titusville today for the weekend and wake tomorrow. This has been one of the heaviest experiences of my life and I wanted to share it with you all.

Thanks for your love and suppport.

-Brady

#2

My prayers and thoughts along with total positive vibes go out to you and your family!

May your father RIP.

#3

Brady, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your dad was very lucky to have the people who loved him with him and to be able to move on in relative peace.

Celebrate his life and know that a part of him will always live on in you.

Take care, man.

#4

Peace Brady. I’m so glad you got to be there, very sorry for the loss & ensuing emotional hardship.

#5

Sorry for your loss Brady. Sounds like he left in a peaceful manner and that you’re handling it well, hope I get a chance to meet you sometime this summer Brady.

#6

My thoughts are with you and your family, keep your head up.

#7

So sorry to hear about your loss, Brady. I hope you can take some solice in the fact that he was so happy that everyone was there with him when he passed. I have no doubt that that made it much more comfortable for him. It’s also a great thing that you got to see his face light up when you all walked into the room.
Like the Dooj said, celebrate his life. And no matter what the future holds for you, know that your Dad is always there with you.
Finally, continue to live your life in ways that you feel would make him proud.

Stay strong during this incredibly difficult time, and know that you have all the love and support from all of us.
((((((((((((((((((vibes))))))))))))))))

#8

really sorry to hear that. glad you got to see him…

#9

Brady, you gave your dad everything he really needed at the end, your love. It gave him the assuredness he needed to take the last step, knowing that his life had this level of meaning to his children.

You’ll have to cry this one out a number of times before you can move on from this experience, but you should feel pretty special about the bond you have with your dad. Like Chris said, he will always be with you in the love you’ll feel for others the rest of your life, and especially for your own kids.

With all the love that my dad and I shared.

#10

Brady…man I am so sorry to hear that pal! I lost my grandfather last week also…been tough. There is no easy time to lose a loved one. You and your family are in my prayers.

#11

Oh, Jawbone… :frowning:

You and your family are in my thoughts.

Hope some music will get you through this.
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#12

Brady, my friend I’ve never met, there is nothing for me to say. This is something that every son and daughter dreads, and nothing I type here will change the way you feel. Your post was written so beautifully, and you must have incredible poise to be able to type out something like that so eloquently at a time like this.

Keep your head up. Your father will never be forgotten and this, too, shall pass. Until then, stay strong for the people who need you to. Nothing but the best to you, friend, we’re all here for you.

#13

I’m very sorry for your loss Brady. My thoughts are with you.

#14

You and Travis are two of the coolest cats I’ve ever met. Your pop must have been one hell of a guy. I’ve been there before, and there’s nothing harder to deal with than losing a parent. It’s incredibly tough, but I know that as positive as you and your brother are, you’re going to be OK, and that music, art, laughter, and love really are the best ways to cope.

Much love to you and your family, broski.

(((((((vibes)))))))

#15

Sorry for your loss… While it’s very, very hard to lose someone, Hopefully you and your family will find comfort in knowing that he is no longer in pain, no one wants to live like that. My thoughts and prayers are with ya man… take care…

#16

I’m sorry for your loss Brady. That fact that he got to see you before he passed must have been a great comfort for him.

(((((Brady)))))

#17

I wish you and your family the best, Brady.

:slight_smile:

#18

oh man brady this is unbelievably terrible to hear, I’m so sorry…I can’t imagine what you’re feeling. Stay strong and give my condolences to your brother for me if/when you get a chance

#19

Aw Brady,

Sending you positive vibes and lots of love. Sorry about your loss.

hugs

#20

So sorry Brady. Remember the good times. Remember often.

Love B