Happy Ohkeemom's Day

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#1

To Ally and Ollie and any other Ohkeemoms out there, hope you have a great day. You deserve it, for sure.

As I visited with my mom for a good part of yesterday, I tought about the mom’s who participate here and wondered whether my mom had any circle of friends even remotely like this one when she was bringing me up.

Tried to remember what her interests were when I was ten, so into being a kid and so oblivious to the grownup things that my parents had to do, and the how they relaxed to help cope with that.

I dont think mom had many hobbies, most of world revolved around family, ours and her sisters and brothers, which she had many of. She liked to read a lot, Readers Digest, and magazines, and she was into puzzle books, crosswords and word search.

But I don’t think she had many outside friends. There were some “school” mothers that she became friendly with because of the relationships my brothers and I had with our friends, but my memory of her is one of always being busy. She did housewifey things during the day, and had a parttime job from 6 to 11 during the week at a greeting card company.

We talked about that job quite a bit yesterday. At 97, her longterm memory is more accessible, so we were doing a lot of reminiscing. It was a good time for all of us, but it never revealed any link to an Ohkeepa-like connection.

Too bad. I bet the Ohkee-children will one day wonder about what their mom’s wrote about here.

#2

Happy Mothers Day!

#3

hooray for moms

#4

Happy Mother’s Day!

#5

^ How is the Moma Mom doing Dave?

All the best to her!

#6

Happy 42nd mothers day barb!

#7

MomaMom is doing great, Will! Thanks for asking. ;D

#8

Luckily for them it’s the intraweb they can easily hack into their Mother’s computer and read every last post they ever wrote… ahhh the intraweb.

#9

aww thanks guys for the well wishes on Mother’s Day…it was a hectic one… but when is being a mom not hectic? :wink:

it was a good day :smiley:

#10

I think when it involves pizza and a bowl. :smiley:

#11

Thanks alot guys! I spent mine cooking chocolate chip pancakes for 4 followed by a day of cleaning house and doing laundry. Apparently Mother’s Day was all about acting more like a mother for me. My daughter made me a really cool calander in school that I love, so it was a good day. Of course she wants to know why there’s no kids day but I assured her everyday was kids’ day and if she wanted proof, there was a stack of laundry to fold.

#12

Who knew that the conversation with my mom that I descibed in this thread would be my last with her. She passed peacefully late yesterday, and even though I’ve had 60 years with her in my life, and it was pretty much time for her to go, I’m still not dealing with it all too well.

And I’ve tried to refrain from coming on here and dumping out my sorrow on you folks, but I guess I needed to anyway, and for that I apologize. I never want to bring any of you down, but I also never attempted to lie to you either. I always cherish the fact that I felt safe enough to come here with the truth, because I pretty much trusted what you did with it.

I wish the truth could always be happy, but unfortunately it can’t. And as much as intellectually I know that my mom’s passing was an inevitably good thing, even at 60, I still see her as my mom to some degree in the same way I did as I did when I was 10. And when I slip into that perspective, I’m crying as sincerely as any child would who just lost a parent.

We’re leaving for NY in the morning for a couple of days of mourning, and a funeral on Tuesday. My brother wants me to put a eulogy together, and I don’t think I’ll have much trouble with that. He also asked me to give it at the service, and I told him I didn’t think I could. If I’m anything like I was at my dad’s funeral, I’ll be too much of a blubbering mess to get any words out.

Thanks for listening my friends. I’m sure this is going to stimulate lots of thoughts and feelings, so I don’t think I’m quite finished threading about this. I don’t mind if you scroll away (the dew). Like I said, writing about this is cathartic, and helps me get back to center, so I appreciate just that I can come here and say these things.

#13

Wow, fone. I’m so sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. My condolences to you and your family. I’m glad you guys had one last mother’s day together :slight_smile: Remember the good times, my friend.

#14

aw, man. so sorry to hear about this, fone. i hate when people lose loved ones. like ollie said im glad you got to see her and converse before she went. i wish i could give you a giant man-hug.

#15

wow, that’s really too bad fone.

its always hard to lose someone.

)))))))GOOD VIBES((((((((

#16

{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}

Right back at you all.

Heading out soon, feeling OK for the moment. Looking forward to seeing some of my cousins and family members I don’t often get to spend time with. Mom always thought that was important, so I’m looking for the positive aspects of this.

#17

((((((((((Vibes))))))))))

Sorry to hear this Bill, I wish I could give you words of wisdom in difficult times as you have for me in the past, but you know what to do.

Glad to hear that it was a peaceful passing and you appear to be dealing well with all of this.

We’re here for you friend.

#18

{{{{{{{{{Guud Vibes}}}}}}}}}

Sorry for your loss Fone.

#19

Blessings & peace to you Fone! So sorry.

#20

Sorry to hear that, Bill.

97 is a fantastic run. That is a long, full life.