Message from Ollie

Non-Phish General
#1

Ollie asked me to post this:

don’t wanna address alll the comments made at my expense because it would be fruitless to get into a back and forth. Just wanted to set the record straight for a second. I didn’t just up and leave the OKP cause Gin was beating Divided Sky, lol. Yeah I definitely had a rant about it as well as the rest of the bracket, but I had gotten in from Colorado at like 6 that morning and was more than a little cranky from sleep deprivation. I do apologize for going off like I did…completely uncalled for. Anyway, I’ve been contemplating taking my leave from the OKP for a while now for one reason or another. This is fairly common knowledge amoung those of you who “know me” because I’ve talked with several of you about it. I mean, my posting has become less and less frequent and routinely stops for weeks at a time. Bottom line, OKP is a great place but I just don’t think I mesh well with you guys. That hopefully doesn’t come off insulting or smug or condescending because I’d never want it to. I don’t really know why saying my time has run it’s course and telling you all to take it easy (or whatever I exactly said) got turned into being “dramatic” but that wasn’t meant to be either. I just figured then was as good a time as any to make my exit. I’m sure Hank’s walking around the mod boards beating his chest cause he thinks he made me leave, but the reality of it is, I left cause my heart just wasn’t in it anymore. Anywho, take care OKP.
::rides breeze out the door::

#2

Whatever. I don’t think Ollie would survive if Phish comes back, since she can’t get along with us.

Fare thee well. I hope maybe one day you’ll come back in a better mood.

#3

I can understand it being time to move on. It happens for some and not for others. Since its inception there have been many regulars who have dropped off the OKP, so I don’t see why anyone would begrudge Ollie that prerogative. I am sorry to see her go. I thought her perspective and writing ability made this a better place. Will miss you Ollie.

How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard. - Annie

#4

man, people love them some drama.

#5

Later Ollie, i’ll be celebrating my birthday for 2 from now on… just sad to see that you had to delete your account instead of just making random appearances…

#6

^I agree.

I could never just QUIT hanging out with my friends. I know it’s not exactly the same, but it kind of is. I consider you all my friends, including Ollie, and I can’t see myself ever just quit being friends with anyone, especially a whole group of them.

#7

how about it.

#8

I’m sad to see her go.

Best wishes, Ollie.

#9

Yeah Ollie, good to know you, even if just a little bit.

Sorry to see you’ve deleted your account.

Glad to see you apologize for the harsh exit.

Come back someday will ya? The solution to ‘not enough people like Ollie’ isn’t to remove Ollie. /2 cents

#10

#11

::struts around the mod board beating his chest::

I’m sorry, what now??

#12

I’m going to be serious for a minute here so be prepared.

Something I’ve noticed in many people (myself included), a flaw we have, is we like to be given attention. The greater our pride and stronger our sense of ego the more we need to be the center of attention. Somehow attention reaffirms our existence, our self-worth, that we are liked. I think this all mainly stems from the need to be loved… and if we weren’t given unconditional love as a child we become deviant adults. Next time we crave some attention look at yourself and ask why? The world is filled with people who act out just for attention. A little maturity and self-love goes a long way… and we should seek.

Now somebody LOOK AT ME!

It is difficult because, again, many of our behavior patterns come from the way we were raised. We just can’t easily change these patterns. It takes alot of painful work. Our parents try their best but people cannot give what they don’t have. So if the parents didn’t get unconditional love and attention, if they were neglected by their own parents etc… then they pass that onto their children and the cycle continues.

I am not judging anyone here, just making a general observation. All this just made me think…

Caaarry on…

#13

yeah i don’t get the whole deleting your account thing either, but i guess she felt it was necessary. I know sometimes i don’t have as much time to spend on the boards, and sometimes If i miss a few days, I don’t want to have to play catch up, but end up doing so anyway, b/c this place is so great of a place.

anyway, fare teh well ollie

somebody put up that photoshopped picture of her all wooked out, that was a great one

#14

You know…Ollie could just post under another screenname…

Bah…that would be too easy.

#15

That’s too bad.

#16

I can understand deleting her screen name. It’s kind of like a virtual act of finality, a ritual bridge burning of sorts.

Sometimes, when you don’t especially like the way you are and the way you feel with your life, you have to force yourself to make changes in order to break certain behavior patterns that you recognize as not who you want to be. Maybe who we were seeing as Ollie was not who she wanted to be, and how she was feeling about being here was not something enjoyable to her.

And even though she could easily sign back on under another identity, deleting her account was a way she could guarantee not slipping back into old habits and a personna that did not make her particularly happy.

And maybe she hates the OKP and wanted to stick it up everyone’s ass, but until I hear differently from her, that’s just not the way I choose to view her motives.

First of all, we’ve all got to keep in mind that the OKP will not go on forever, virtually or otherwise. Secondly, and this is for sure, that members, contributing or not, will come and go over time. That’s because we’re all in a state of becomming something else at every moment, and the OKP is just a temporary resting place, a social oasis, if you will, where the breeze is always blowing, and the chops remain mellow, a refuge from the horseshit that clogs so much of the real world these days.

So for right now, let’s all just look at goldphish because his parents loved him or didn’t love him unconditionally. I can’t figure out which. (btw, we should have a thread about this concept of unconditional love, because the mundane use of the term is bullshit in my mind)

#17

we’re done.

#18

THANK YOU FONO! ;D

Unconditional love… I don’t think its a difficult concept. Basically its love given freely, from the heart without wanting anything in return. You can feel it when someone is being true, showing true love.

In many ordinary relationships love is only given if a set of requirements are fulfilled. It could be anything from doing as your told to giving enough orgasms to calling on time, whatever. If a person doesn’t get what they want from someone then the relationship suffers in someway. Now if a persons motivation is one of caring about the other and wishing them happiness then there aren’t as many conditions, love can flow freely and unconditionally. A mutual respect will develop and any selfish behavior inhibits the love so behavior is learned by doing what keeps that mutual love channel open.

Makes sense to me! :stuck_out_tongue:

Often times a parent would rather buy their children love thru toys then actually give them love thru their time and energy. Supernanny is great b/c she makes those parents responsible for giving their children love.

#19

::wonders how many times ollie has seen this thread as a guest::

::realizes he doesn’t care::

::moves on::

but really, this is just like vern leaving. still like the person, don’t care if they are here or not.

go Gin!

#20

i dont get it.

if she didnt want to post she didnt have to…you bastards piss me off all the time…im sure i piss you guys off too…at least i hope i do or im not doing a good job…at all.

i dont know.