missed opportunities...

Non-Phish General
#1

piss me off.

sometimes they dwell in your mind and bother you forever.

As I was packing up and getting ready to leave the festival I was at this weekend, this amazing red-head who had been camping close to us gives me the smile, twice. You know, the smile that says “Just come talk to me and we’ll probably be doing the love dance shortly.” We were just getting ready to leave and I couldn’t do anything besides say hi to her.

She was incredible-looking, and now all I have is the memory.

FUCKING FUCK!!

…share your missed opportunties…they don’t all have to be sexual.

#2

^Don’t be so hard on yourself, phg.

Maybe she was just really doped up? And if you had taken advantage of her, it would have been wrong.

Yes? No? Not helping? Ok, I’ll stop.

#3

It’s killing me more every time I think about it. I’ll probably never see her again.

She wasn’t really doped up, at all. She had just woken up late Sunday morning, unlike me. That’s why its so amazing. I had been up all night (and pretty much all weekend) and was coming down from the most psychadelic trip of my life. My hair was all greasy and I hadn’t showered in days, and she still was giving me the look.

These kind of opportunities are few and far between. And I hate myself for not being able to take advantage of it.

#4

Well, do you want the realistic speech or the motivational one? I"m a mom, I’m prepared with both.

a) dude… how many chances in life do you think you get to go after what you want with that little resistance? on the other hand, she could have just as easily walked up to you and been like “Hey…you got a late start too huh? Wanna share a bottled water and baby wipe shower with me?” don’t be so hard on yourself… it takes two to tango and girls who wait for it to happen to them get passed up, and have regrets just like you do… so don’t be so hard on yourself.

b) aww sweetie, dont’ worry about it - maybe it wasn’t meant to be. Or maybe, you’ll take this experience with you and next time you find yourself in a similar situation you’ll remember how you felt like you missed out on it, and you’ll get in the game at the right time. Either way, take it as a learning experiance and gain some perspective from it.

haha… take your pick, those are my two pep talks.

Here’s a thought though… and it has a lot to do with this topic. I asked someone one time to name a word, one word, that described me best, and do you know what thy said? Regret. And it got me to thinking, for someone who tends to really live in the moment and “follows their gut” and all that as much as I do, how did I end up with so many regrets in life? Just goes to show you following your insticts is sometimes overratted…

#5

the first speech just made me feel a hell of a lot better. That would’ve been a very funny line had she said that to me.

And I think this seemingly simple experience is going to benefit me in the future.

thanks, momma.

#6

Nah, you’re right to beat yourself up smartly about the head and face. This way you’ll establish the conditioning, hopefully, that will stop you from being so hesitant in the future.

There’s just no need to draw any real blood during that self-castigation, because, after all, if you didn’t act on it, it wasn’t really meant to be, now, was it?

#7

She was probably a tranny.

#8

Guy there are only about 3 billion other girls out there. Just next time you go out, go out there with the same attitude that you woke up with on Sunday morning…you know, that post-acid “I’m superman” type thing. You’ll do fine. It sucks regretting those things you didn’t do, WAY more than regretting those things you did do. You’ll get over it man. It’s festival season, time to bone down.

#9

Were having a little sit down when you come to Chicago for the Page show.
You, me, and some beer are gonna get to the bottom of this. Wanna know why?

"You know what you are? You’re like a big bear with claws and with fangs…big fucking teeth, man.
Yeah… big fuckin’ teeth on ya’. And she’s just like this little bunny, who’s just kinda cowering in the corner. Shivering.
Yeah, man just kinda… you know, you got these claws and you’re staring at these claws and your thinking to yourself, and with these claws you’re thinking, “How am I supposed to kill this bunny, how am I supposed to kill this bunny?”
And you’re poking at it, you’re poking at it…
Yeah, you’re not hurting it. You’re just kinda gently batting the bunny around, you know what I mean? And the bunny’s scared Mike, the bunny’s scared of you, shivering.
And you got these fucking claws and these fangs…
And you got these fucking claws and these fangs, man! And you’re looking at your claws and you’re looking at your fangs. And you’re thinking to yourself, you don’t know what to do, man. “I don’t know how to kill the bunny.” With this you don’t know how to kill the bunny, do you know what I mean?

You’re like a big bear, man."

KILL THE BUNNY! :stuck_out_tongue:

#10

hahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahhahahaha thanks everyone.

I didn’t intend this to become a counseling session, but thats cool.

I get what you mean, gc.

#11

holy shit.

best pickup line ever.

i’m saying that to the next girl i see.

#12

I know what you mean, man, I feel the same way sometimes. THat’s pretty weird, considering I’m wayy too young to be “missing” things… But I’m almost sure there’s a few decent girls who would have gotten down with me or whatevers, you know?

I also probably have some other examples that have nothing to do with women, but they aren’t coming to me at the moment.

#13

what are you getting at, big guy? :stuck_out_tongue: :sunglasses:

#14

HAHAHAHAHA!!! nice job, icc.

#15

i just shaved…ten bucks says i miss out on an opportunity tonight because of my lack of beard.

#16

I wouldnt take that bet.

You’re a striking man with a beardo.

I’ve found that I’m the opposite - in college i’d seem to pull more tail if I actually kept it smooth as a baby’s ass.

But to each his own, of course.

high fives Neck

#17

oh i never shave smooth…i couldnt…its too…smooth.

i just use a beard trimmer with no guard…i got like 1/16 of stubble there.

dats how i like it…plus if my girlfriend makes me mad i can grind her face on my cheek.

#18

I just had a BBQ with my roomate. I think she’s diggin on me. Last night we went and sneaked into the pool in our codo complex and went swimming. She sat on my leg in teh hottub. It made me feel kinda funny, like when we used to clime the ropes back in gym class.

weird.

#19

damn, ked.

sat on yer leg, eh?

DONT miss this opportunity.

#20

Yeah, boning your roommate sounds like a good idea.

That wouldn’t create any issues.