my wife says she hates phish, but i think she’s jerking my chain. i think she really likes them. i’ve caught her grooving to gin and funky bitch a few times when she thought i wasn’t looking. i really want to get her to a show, but she has no interest. maybe this summer if there is a tour…
Well, my gf is nto all that into any music, let alone Phish. Sometimes i wonder how we have lasted 4 years based off of this fact alone…but we have a good relationship, and i love her very much.
The thing that i think really helps, is that although she doesn’t enjoy it, she understands, and accepts, my obsession with it. She is aware that some people live for the music, and respects that I am one of them.
When i tell her something that I find interesting, or funny, that the band said/did, she at least seesm to pay attention.
She does join us for the shows we attend, and tells me that the main reason she does it is becuase she likes to see me so happy…but I think the other main reason is she doesn;t want to miss out on the fun.
The most difficult part of it all is the money. When tour is announced, and we start talking about what shows we want to go to, all she sees is dollar $igns disappearing.
But, I was able to catch 7 shows in 09 (including the Hampton shows), so i can’t really argue that i am missing out all that much.
(already socking away cash for the NYE-MSG run)
That’s super cool. My ex used to say the same thing, and would come to shows just b/c I enjoyed them so much and she liked seeing me happy. It’d make me a little self-conscious once in awhile, though 
My wife will always be about 50 shows ahead of me! 
All that matters is the next show
Many of you have met my Wife, she rocks it for Phish and lets me plan the shows and the travel… I love seeing Phish with her!
She loves the boys. Not in the uberdork-fanboy way I do. But she loves music, loves to play music (piano and a bit of guitar), and loves Phish. We went to 12/3 at MSG together , which was the second week we started seeing each other and had a blast. We’ve even learned to play a couple Phish tunes together.
Being a piano player, she’s got a huge crush on Page.
I’m jealous of all you folks who’s found someone special to enjoy Phish with. I can only hope that when I find mine, he’s just as into them as me. Or at least, just as into good music.
^Well you know the perfect place to find him.
I have no other half, I’m a whole! 
you never know, maybe the 2010 summer tour is the time… Never know!
My wife said the other day, “You know, I bet I know 60 percent of Phish’s stuff now, but I still don’t know all the names or why people go nuts for certain songs.”
That’s better than nothin’. She’ll never be a head so that’s about as good as I’m going to get. She’s allowing the 32 year old kid she’s married to to traverse the country this summer in search of “hetty jams”, so you gotta hand it to her. She’s a keeper.
^ Amen Ben! Keep that one happy 
My wife was never into Phish in the sense that we are, but she liked their albums to have on around the house or in the car and stuff like that. She saw one show with me (my first, back in 96) and enjoyed it, but it was a bit “much” for her. But she tolerated my obsession and was pretty cool about it overall. Even though we split up 10 years ago, she still emails me articles or links to things about Phish when she runs across them, or asks about my tour plans every summer. 
Ben, your wife and my wife might be good friends over time, 
when we meeting up? My lil bro is moving from Iowa this summer so I might get down there soon…
Keeper - HELL yeah! My wife loves Phish, knows a good deal of the tunes and understands the scene but is ultimately a fan of GREAT Music anyway!
Great read!
Sounds like the first encounter will be at Toyota - very soon! Man, I can’t wait…
If you guys end up helping your brother move from Iowa make sure to stop through Davenport. If you dig on craft beer we’ll head down to the patio at Bent River in Moline, IL and tilt a few.
^Love a good beer!
Either way for sure in/at Toyota! Is your wife going there too?
If you go to Bent, tell my best friend Edub (bartender), or my also dear friend Lindsey that Matty Boyle sent you and there will be a hetty Uncommon Stout sitting in front of you on the house in NO TIME.
Dude, I drink with Lindsay almost every weekend. Just got hammered with her last Saturday evening on the patio out there, before work called me away. That’s always fun, getting called away to look at a bs network problem half-in-the-bag.
Yep, Laura will be with me! We’re hitting the Cubs/Brewers game up in Milwaukee on 6/10 and then driving down to Toyota the next day. We’ve got tickets in section 104, about mid-level it looks like. She can’t do huge GA floors like at Toyota so I had to get up in the stands. I’m cool with that.
Hmm, we are GA for Toyota, but I am wondering if the stands would have been better for my wife too…