Type your thoughts (Part 1)

Non-Phish General
#9581

^Find a city, find yourself a city to live in" :slight_smile:

Seems to me that Alabama is like the black hole when it comes to leaving. Everybody seems to hate it but rarely does anybody ever leave or if they do, they always end up back and living with their parents within a year or two.

If you’re unhappy, make a move. You’re young and single, so it shouldn’t be hard. Figure out what state, town, climate, geography etc fits your personality. I think Fone has a website link for that. Figure out what it will cost to get started. You’ll need to find out what housing costs and utility costs are, gas prices, groceries, etc and come up with how much $$ you’ll need each month to survive. Check the job market and see how easy/difficult it is to get even a minimum wage job in that area.

I know this all sounds silly, but if you don’t wanna run home with your tail between your legs in a few months, you gotta crunch the numbers and make sure it’s possible. Then spend a few months working your ass off to save up a couple of months expenses in case you can’t get a job right away. If you worked 40-60 hours a week, live at home and don’t do a lot of extra curriculars, you can save up several thousand pretty quickly which should be plenty. It can be done!

I know as humans we like instant gratification and no work to achieve said gratification, but sometimes having a good goal is the best medicine for loneliness or a life that has temporarily derailed. Besides, it doesn’t sound like you have anything else to do :slight_smile:

I tell you, I was in your shoes when I was 20…except I was pregnant taboot. Talk about feeling alone! I too only got calls when people were “searching”, even from my best friends. It was definitely a very lonely time, but it didn’t stay that way and I’m a better person for having gone through it.

I know it’s hard to keep other people from getting you down, but I learned a long time ago that if I can’t be happy when I’m alone, then I need to fix something in me. You can be in the greatest city in the world, surrounded by all the friends you can stand, but if you’re not happy with yourself, it won’t matter. Each night when the party is over and it’s just you laying down in your bed, those feelings will still be there.

I’m not saying that’s what is going on with you, I just see some down and out posts on here from different people from time to time and that was for anybody who might need it.
::hugs::

#9582

Excellent, wonderful post Ollie, but this part especially stuck out to me:

This is something I learned when I moved to Asheville. Sure I had two friends who live here when I moved, but they were often busy, leaving me at my lonely apartment, just having to sit there and get to know myself. It sucked really bad, but I have gotten to the point where often times, I’m just as happy to be chilling by myself as to be surrounded by people. I have also discovered that I prefer having a very small group of very close friends rather than a big huge group of “friends” that are really more like acquaintances. But yeah, that was well-said, and I agree with it strongly.

I think from age 18-25 has got to be the most stressful period in life. I actually heard that from a psychologist once, but maybe she was just trying to make me feel better. But I believe it, because it’s the most transitional period in life. You’re leaving your parents’ home, you’re learning to take care of your own house and food and such, and at the same time, you have to go to school, which is a huge stress ball in itself. So yeah, it’s tough at this age, and I look forward to the relative stability of having a regular job. I know it’s hard then too, what with paying bills and all that, but I prefer work to school, so I think I will like it better.

#9583

Frankly, Michigan has been pretty dreary lately. All people ever do is bitch and whine about politics and jobs and blah blah blah. I know things are bad but folks don’t have to bitch about it 24/7. The job market is horrible, the weather can get crappy and really dries out my skin and I wonder if I’d be happier elsewhere. As always, getting a job is the barrier to any move. If I had one set up somewhere, I’d be gone in a second.

And man…I’ve been brutally out of the loop on Phish news. I just checked the setlists for the first time in months and was overjoyed at all the cool songs the boys busted out. A Fuck Your Face reset? Wow. There’s just so little chance of me ever going on the road anymore that the band just seems like some distant memory since they rarely come around here.

#9584

Thank you for the encouragement and kind words Ollie. That means alot that someone would take time out of their day to write such a huge post concerning me… and this

The thing is is that i dont really mind being alone. It just kinda hurts when you can sit there for weeks and the only calls you get are ppl (as you put it) “searching”. Makes me realize that all these friends i thought i had don’t give two shits about me in reality, though they may act like they do. And here is the problem with me moving. OK so i want to go to UNCA for school but i first have to meet the requirement of two foreign language credits. And what sucks about this is my dad thinks i would be better off going to the local community college than going to ABTech. Here is where we disagree. I have only one arm so of course living alone will take some reall adjustment, and i would like to have a light course load when i first move just to get in the swing of things, and make sure i have everything i need. Now you would think they would agree but apparently not. I am lucky enough to have parents that have offered to support me thru college so all of this probably comes off as whiny, and trivial, but i really don’t know what to do to convince my parents that i need to move. I need to learn how to do things myself. And also i have been having serious trouble finding a job that i can do with one arm. i know that a place can’t refuse to hire me because of one arm. But i’m not gonna go dragging a buisness down by taking a job in which i cannot perform adiquetely of efficiently.

But once again thank you for your care and time and such. It does NOT go un-appreciated! :thumbup:

#9585

Ladyphish wrote:
“I know it’s hard to keep other people from getting you down, but I learned a long time ago that if I can’t be happy when I’m alone, then I need to fix something in me. You can be in the greatest city in the world, surrounded by all the friends you can stand, but if you’re not happy with yourself, it won’t matter. Each night when the party is over and it’s just you laying down in your bed, those feelings will still be there.”

Wherever you go, there you are. Lonely Phish kids? What else is new? There is a down side to “enlightenment”. :wink:

#9586

I bought two more Kings of Leon records, so now I have four of their five albums on vinyl. Aha Shake Heartbreak, their second album, is - get this shit - a double 10" clear vinyl, with custom labels and an alternative cover to the CD. Really glad I spent the cash for that thing, it’s so damn sweet. The other one I got is their new one, and even though its like, Only By The Night II, I’m warming to it a little bit. They said in the press that it’s gonna be a return to their early style, but turns out that’s not true at all. :frowning:

Anyway I’m thinking this do some chores > burn Prov/Amherst/Manchester to disc > drink another brew & watch a DVD plan is going well for me.

The Magic Hat caps go (i used to think these things were dumb but now I love em):

“Beer For Peace”
“It’s No Fake, That’s Real Cheesecake”
“We corn in peas and mean no ham”

My friend Russ works for Magic Hat, and ever since he told me he contributes some of these, I immediately stopped my maintenance of what now seems a cold attitude toward the goofy beer cap sayings of Magic Hat. Cool guy that Russ and his Jen, nice peoples.

That record I got is wicked cool.

And what’s up with Phish vinyl, can we have some more of that please? Thank you. I’ll take Junta, Nectar & Rift on double vinyl please, thank you. Will pay lots of money. Even though I have the CDs and have heard these songs a million billion times.

#9587

Just ordered some new aggressive skates, and going to start skating again. Haven’t done this since i was 14… should be interesting. Hope i didn’t just wast 200 dolla :think: . anyone else here an aggressive skater, or partake in any extreme sports for that matter?

#9588

first of all, maybe you saw on a page or two back that i’m also going through some similar shit as you I think…last night was a potentially really bad night, i’m lucky i happened to run into one of my few buddies down here last night at like 2 in the morning, took my mind off of some potentially damaging shit…it looks like i might have a good weekend for the first time down here in a long while, thank you halloween

second of all, i’m glad I saw this…I haven’t skated since I was probably about 14 either, never really got thattt great at it, and when i started skating with some dudes that were way better than me and they were kinda pushing me to get better at a faster pace than i even cared to, i lost interest…but right now, this might not be such a bad thing to try to get back into, dunno if i can find a skatepark around here or not…

also, are you going to Levon Helm in Birmingham?

#9589

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#9590

i used to skate a lot (skateboard) till i completely wrecked both ankles and would hurt myself more anytime i would go out to skate. i still do flat ground tricks sometimes but as far as throwing myself down a set of stairs… i really can’t afford to be out of work from being hurt anymore.

i’ve been snowboarding a few times but haven’t been in years. i think i might brave the cold and try to go some this winter.

and i went surfing for the first time last month. that was the funnest thing i have ever done. i’ll be doing that as much as possible next summer for sure. seriously thinking about moving close to a beach this summer.

when you say aggressive skates are you talking about roller blades?

#9591

^gold! :laughing:

#9592

ha ha, my snowboarding experiences were just me hauling ass and busting my ass. i remember my beanie being knocked off my head as it slammed into an ice patch and having a huge lump on my head.

i did manage to do a 180 off a little ramp someone had built but quickly realized that i couldn’t ride switch and slid about 20 feet off the trail into the woods.

good times though. i’m gonna go up and try again this winter.

#9593

I’ve been riding since 1987. My 1st board was a Burton unidirectional cruz 165. 3 years later I got a 150 Gnu and learned to ride. In 1994 I fell off an ice mound built up by a snow machine. I caught an edge at launch for a backside 360 and fell about 12 ft onto cement like ice causing my right shoulder to do a 90. dislocated, torn rotator, etc… In 2004 While “storm chasing” around the rockies with my Rhodesian Ridgeback puppy Shelby, I travelled from Steamboat to Jackson Hole, and then down to Mt. Brighton Utah (That’s where the snow was going). On my 2nd day of riding Mt. Brighton I “ate shit” off a 15 foot cornice that I had hit successfully the day before. I nosed over and the front of my Arbor stuck into the packed snow of the landing area and my body splayed out tearing pectoral muscles and the other rotator cuff. I’m only going a couple times a year now and my doctor scolds me when he finds out about it. :frowning:

#9594

You lucky fuckers with your trips out west and your damn skiing. I have never been out west, nor have I ever skied. Kinda makes me feel like I’m missing out, since when I was a kid, everyone I knew went skiing after Christmas every goddamn year. I’m gonna learn one of these days, but I’ve heard it gets harder the older you get. Hopefully that’s not true, or hopefully I’m an exception to the rule. But somehow I doubt it.

#9595

I think I could probably write a small book on the lady, but I need to express the thought that Pei Yi is one helluva great person and one key asset of the OKP. Besides being a funster at heart, she is all about Phish and the music and the vibe, and personifies what’s best about it in every way.

I don’t mean to slight anyone else that I met over the past two days because the people from this group that I met are all top notch brothers and sisters to one another, and that was incredibly great to experience. But I was super impressed by Pei Yi and her inner spirit toward all of us, and just needed to send those kudos out to her.

More on the AC shows in the appropriate threads.

#9596

So I was just cruising around the interwebz, reading about one of my favorite topics: Alaska. And I found a very cool chart that gives the amount of hours of daylight per month in Alaska. Just in case you find that remotely interesting, here it is:

I think it’s pretty damn cool. Turns out Fairbanks actually gets a full four hours of sunlight per day in the winter, which is quite surprising since it is in the Interior and very far north. Notice that in Barrow and Prudhoe Bay, December and January say 0:00. And then June-August, it says 24:00. That’s :crazy: if you ask me, but I would love to experience it for myself.

#9597

Sometimes people 4:20 by accident.

#9598

Sometimes I refer to myself as people.

#9599

This is great to hear! Go for it man! When I was 17, I dropped out of High School, followed Phish and taught skiing professionally at Chestnut Mountain in Galena, IL., then moved to Lake Tahoe and taught at Squaw Valley. Best thing I ever did in my whole life–I would not trade those five years for ANYTHING! High School was just not for me, and I knew it. Eventually I had a serious shoulder injury that required expensive surgery, I had no health insurance and couldn’t afford it, so I went back to school, graduated college (without a H.S. diploma, just a G.E.D.).

I guess where I am getting man, is that YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE! Your younger years 17-25 are the REAL golden years! Do things spontaneously, but smart-as Ollie mentioned. If skating is your passion, SKATE. If Alabama is not your cup of tea–get the hell out! The good thing about home, is that it is always home! Even if it doesn’t seem like it, you are usually always welcome back. Explore! Experience! But most importantly, incorporate education in SOME way. That little piece of paper called a degree, is the real door opener! Peace!

#9600

i just got a strange captcha on TM

“groper appears”

:astonished:

it kinda made me wanna look over my shoulder to make sure there wasn’t someone hiding behind my couch.